I’m hearing this a lot lately: “I don’t know how you do it, with a toddler and a baby, both under 2!”. I usually reply that I don’t know either but that’s not the whole truth.
Yes, it’s tough and it’s loud and it’s taken multi-tasking to astronomically high heights, but the truth is that the first is always the hardest. Nothing, and I mean NOTHING can prepare you for that first leap into motherhood that starts off as a swan dive and ends up as a monumental belly flop. Those days are definitely the roughest I’ve had in my entire life.
Some days you feel like your heart is literally going to explode and other days (or even the same day, it’s hard to say) it feels like your head is going to explode from the “hangover” you have without the party or booze from the night before.
But they are not forever. Nothing is forever. The good days and the bad days. You take them as they come and wake up each day not knowing which way it’s going to go, but also knowing that that’s okay.
Nobody has ‘their body back’ after 3 months, nobody is ready to go back to work after 4 months, nobody is loving the leaking boobs or the c-section wound, nobody is having loads of sex and nobody has it all together. For real, guys.
So I don’t know how I do it with two small kids, I don’t know how you do it with one, or how someone else does it with three or four, but I do know that we just do what we need to do and enjoy the ride because it’s not forever.
If you’re a mom and you’re reading this, you’ve got this. You really, actually do. To your kids, you are their world and you are amazing. Through the tears and the laughter and the frustration and the mad love, you’ve got this.