Have you ever been through a friendship breakup? I mean have you ever made a mature, adult decision that a person in your life is no longer in line with the values and beliefs that make you who you are?

Adulting is so hard sometimes.

I’m in my 30s and starting to become very “picky” about what I surround my own energy with. This was never a problem in my 20s, but in my 30s, I’m finding less and less time to spend on that which doesn’t gel with my own ongoing adventure to better myself and be happy – for myself and those around me.

“You are the company you keep” is such a terrible cliché, but dammit, it’s true. You can’t surround yourself with negative people and expect to live a positive life. You can’t surround yourself with people whose values oppose yours and expect your values to be enhanced. You can’t surround yourself with people who suck your energy when you’re trying to preserve yours.

Sometimes friendships just run their course and people grow in different directions. It happens all the time and we often get stuck in a relationship that doesn’t serve either parties because neither of them has the courage to face the reality that it’s not sustainable. Forcing a relationship that isn’t working is toxic.

Things you should never force:

• Your jeans size
• A fart
• A relationship

You’re welcome.

Cheers to health relationships and the brave adults behind them!