Why I’m having a C-section for Baby 2

In a nutshell, it’s none of your business!

Sorry, my title is somewhat misleading – you’re not going to get a detailed account of why I’m making this decision about the upcoming birth of our little girl, but that is exactly what I want to touch on in this blog post.

I really don’t understand why society puts so much pressure on moms and moms-to-be to do things in certain ways. At the moment, natural and drug-free birthing is all the rage (yes, there are trends in birthing too) and I feel like I have to justify my decision not to do that when people ask me how I plan to give birth. Please, I mean no disrespect to anyone hoping for this kind of birth – I wanted a natural birth the first time around that ended in a c-section – but my point is: have the birth that you want, it’s none of my business!

Let’s quickly take a look at what society dictates for us moms-to-be and new moms… We must put our bodies through hell (whichever way you do it, it’s not easy) and then quickly “get our bodies back” and post on Instagram a gorgeous bikini pic on the beach, holding our few month old babies with some motivating caption about “bouncing back from pregnancy”. We must breastfeed until the baby is at least 1 years old (but not too far past that and try and keep it out of the public eye because that also becomes undesirable for others to see), but also not keep ourselves away from the real world out there and be back at work as quickly as possible to juggle the multi-tasking, pumping, sleepless life of a working new mom. Be sure not to let the nanny raise your child though!

Because that is what people want to see.

Guys, this is nonsense. The pressure is unnecessary. 

Stop justifying your decisions about your own body and your own children. Nobody else is going to live your life for you, so you’re the one in charge here! As a mom, you will always do what is best for your entire family and you of all people need to trust your own gut and your own decisions.

Fed is best. A safe birth is best. Your decisions are what’s best and there is no need to justify any of it.

Full stop. End scene. Adios.

3 Comments

  1. Shannon says:

    June 14, 2019 at 1:59 pm

    I 100% agree! I had an unmedicated natural birth and took no offense to this 😂 It’s everyone’s own bloody decision… even when I told people about my plan they were shocked and told me what I SHOULD do (epidural). It drove me mad… I mean honestly, only I have a say in the matter.
    Thanks for writing this, we need to encourage this more… mom knows best, let her do her thing in peace! 💛💛

  2. Mosidi says:

    June 15, 2019 at 9:58 pm

    I had a c-section with my 1st child in 2017,we expecting our 2nd child next month and I’m planning to have a c – section again.
    I didn’t think I would end up having a c-section with my 1st child , but I had to…

    I felt like a failure, the 1st question that people would ask after having your child is.. “was it natural or c-section”

    Instead of.. “how are you feeling and how is the baby”
    Alot if times I felt like a failure.. But I then look at my daughter and I see a blessing.. She is healthy, happy and smart.. Who cares if I had a C-section.. My baby was healthy when she was born and she still is.

    Thank you soo much for this topic, i loved it..
    And it’s very encouraging

    I’m looking forward to next month, having a c-section and meeting my baby boy😍

    Thank you once again ❤️❤️

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