Time To Unplug

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Our littlest baby is now 6 months old and it’s a turning point in so many ways. She’s finally out of the ‘danger zone’ on the weight chart, we can stop sterilizing bottles, she’s started the solids journey and hopefully today is the day that all my weaning comes together to allow me to completely stop pumping.
What an adventure! I have such a good feeling about the next 6 months and feel like we are finally coming out of the trenches now. Everybody is still alive, my marriage is still intact, I’ve lost a lot of baby weight, work is ticking along, both babies make us laugh more than they make us cry and 2020 is now on track.

This new season has brought about a change in mindset – a reset of goals and ideals in a way. And with this comes new ideas, new ways of looking at things and new opportunities appearing. It is with this that I decided to go ahead with a passion project that has been on my mind since the time B.C. (Before Children).

Please say hello to “Weekend Unplugged“. Weekend breaks away from the day-to-day grind to recharge and reset. It’s not your usual retreats where you bore yourself into a coma, it’s filled with lovely things to do in lovely surroundings.

The first one is booked for 15-17 May in the Welbedacht Nature Reserve in Tulbagh where you can take the time out to refocus yourself with yoga, trails, creativity, healthy soul food and excellent company.

I really believe that we need to learn to take some time for ourselves, especially as parents who tend to give everything that we have (and more) to our families – when do our systems get a chance to update or recharge? They don’t. We need to provide that time and space. For us. For our health. For our families. And for our happiness.

Join me on this self-love journey.

Click here for booking/enquiries.

Bye Bye, Pump – My Exclusive Pumping Journey

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Exclusive Pumping was not my intended path. When I imagined having a baby and breastfeeding, I imagined many beautiful moments spent bonding with my little human, their little body snuggled into mine, nursing into a dream-like state while tiny little butterflies of happiness flutter in my belly.

No, that did not happen. It did not happen with the first (our struggle of breastfeeding ended quite early on) and it didn’t happen with my second, who didn’t ever latch for a proper breastfeed. I definitely did not imagine a journey of exclusive pumping – hours and hours attached to a breast pump, living my life around a pumping schedule.

This might sound horrifying to some and it’s been an incredible labour of love, but this is the journey I found myself on and I don’t regret making the decision to go down this strange twist in the breastfeeding road.

How my exclusive pumping journey began

When Bailey was born, she was 1,75kg and in the NICU for just under 3 weeks. She struggled to gain weight and every drop of breastmilk was carefully measured against her weight gain. This is where my pumping journey began. We only attempted breastfeeding occasionally as it took more energy for her to breastfeed than the calories she was taking in from the milk and I quickly adjusted to a life of 3-hourly pumping, day and night.

It got easier as I started to allow her to sleep through the night without a night feed (and essentially allowing me to get a good stretch of sleep without pumping) and we fell into a good pumping/feeding schedule.

And there it was. My exclusive pumping life was established. It’s not what I planned, but then again, what part of motherhood really does go as ‘planned’?

And now…

I’ve exclusive pumped for over 5 months now. In the car, in the bathroom, rushing home in the middle of outings, working around a 3-hour pump schedule. I’ve had my boobs out around the clock, while managing my mad toddler and simultaneously bottle-feeding my little baby. I’ve frozen, defrosted, stored, worried about, leaked and counted hundreds of litres of milk and cried when it’s been spilt.

And now I feel that it’s time. It’s time to change route.

I’ve slowly reduced my pumping sessions from 6 times a day, to 5, to 4, to 3 and now to 2.

I’m not sure how much further I’ll go, but I’m proud of how far I’ve come and my dedication to feeding my tiny little one the best that I can.

I do feel that it is time to say goodbye to the pump soon. The pump I’ve had such an up-and-down relationship with. I’m looking forward to having my body back, to packing my boobs away and to some more freedom with my time. I’m looking forward to watching my little one continue to grow and develop as best she can and I know that any decision I make for her is the right one. Fed is best and so is a mom’s sanity!

I’d love to hear about your unexpected feeding journeys with your baby – reach out to me on Instagram to chat more and get a behind-the-scenes look at life with 2 under 2.

I don’t know how you do it…

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I’m hearing this a lot lately: “I don’t know how you do it, with a toddler and a baby, both under 2!”. I usually reply that I don’t know either but that’s not the whole truth.

Yes, it’s tough and it’s loud and it’s taken multi-tasking to astronomically high heights, but the truth is that the first is always the hardest. Nothing, and I mean NOTHING can prepare you for that first leap into motherhood that starts off as a swan dive and ends up as a monumental belly flop. Those days are definitely the roughest I’ve had in my entire life.

Some days you feel like your heart is literally going to explode and other days (or even the same day, it’s hard to say) it feels like your head is going to explode from the “hangover” you have without the party or booze from the night before.

But they are not forever. Nothing is forever. The good days and the bad days. You take them as they come and wake up each day not knowing which way it’s going to go, but also knowing that that’s okay.

Nobody has ‘their body back’ after 3 months, nobody is ready to go back to work after 4 months, nobody is loving the leaking boobs or the c-section wound, nobody is having loads of sex and nobody has it all together. For real, guys.

So I don’t know how I do it with two small kids, I don’t know how you do it with one, or how someone else does it with three or four, but I do know that we just do what we need to do and enjoy the ride because it’s not forever.

If you’re a mom and you’re reading this, you’ve got this. You really, actually do. To your kids, you are their world and you are amazing. Through the tears and the laughter and the frustration and the mad love, you’ve got this.

Best explanation of becoming a mom

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I saw this shared on Facebook and immediately cried into my coffee. Whilst I am neck high in toddler tantrums and newborn feeding and pumping, I needed to see the bigger picture again. Maybe it will make you cry too. You’re welcome 😉

We are sitting at lunch one day when my daughter casually mentions that she and her husband are thinking of “starting a family.” “We’re taking a survey,” she says half-joking. “Do you think I should have a baby?”
“It will change your life,” I say, carefully keeping my tone neutral.
“I know,” she says, “no more sleeping in on weekends, no more spontaneous vacations.”
But that is not what I meant at all. I look at my daughter, trying to decide what to tell her. I want her to know what she will never learn in childbirth classes.
I want to tell her that the physical wounds of child bearing will heal, but becoming a mother will leave her with an emotional wound so raw that she will forever be vulnerable.
I consider warning her that she will never again read a newspaper without asking, “What if that had been MY child?” That every plane crash, every house fire will haunt her.
That when she sees pictures of starving children, she will wonder if anything could be worse than watching your child die.
I look at her carefully manicured nails and stylish suit and think that no matter how sophisticated she is, becoming a mother will reduce her to the primitive level of a bear protecting her cub. That an urgent call of “Mom!” will cause her to drop a soufflé or her best crystal without a moments hesitation.
I feel that I should warn her that no matter how many years she has invested in her career, she will be professionally derailed by motherhood. She might arrange for childcare, but one day she will be going into an important business meeting and she will think of her baby’s sweet smell. She will have to use every ounce of discipline to keep from running home, just to make sure her baby is all right.
I want my daughter to know that every day decisions will no longer be routine. That a five year old boy’s desire to go to the men’s room rather than the women’s at McDonald’s will become a major dilemma. That right there, in the midst of clattering trays and screaming children, issues of independence and gender identity will be weighed against the prospect that a child molester may be lurking in that restroom.
However decisive she may be at the office, she will second-guess herself constantly as a mother.
Looking at my attractive daughter, I want to assure her that eventually she will shed the pounds of pregnancy, but she will never feel the same about herself.
That her life, now so important, will be of less value to her once she has a child. That she would give herself up in a moment to save her offspring, but will also begin to hope for more years, not to accomplish her own dreams, but to watch her child accomplish theirs.
I want her to know that a cesarean scar or shiny stretch marks will become badges of honor.
My daughter’s relationship with her husband will change, but not in the way she thinks.
I wish she could understand how much more you can love a man who is careful to powder the baby or who never hesitates to play with his child.
I think she should know that she will fall in love with him again for reasons she would now find very unromantic.
I wish my daughter could sense the bond she will feel with women throughout history who have tried to stop war, prejudice and drunk driving.
I want to describe to my daughter the exhilaration of seeing your child learn to ride a bike.
I want to capture for her the belly laugh of a baby who is touching the soft fur of a dog or cat for the first time.
I want her to taste the joy that is so real it actually hurts.
My daughter’s quizzical look makes me realize that tears have formed in my eyes. “You’ll never regret it,” I finally say. Then I reached across the table, squeezed my daughter’s hand and offered a silent prayer for her, and for me, and for all the mere mortal women who stumble their way into this most wonderful of callings.
May you always have in your arms the one who is in your heart.

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To My Postpartum Body

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Dear Postpartum Body,

This is not the most fun I’ve had with you, I won’t lie. I’m not loving this version of you. I don’t look like the person I’ve always known – I feel fit and strong, but you don’t reflect that. I see fat and swelling and jiggling. I worked out during this pregnancy, thinking I’ll come out of it the same as the first time, but things don’t always happen as expected.

You’ve created and birthed two humans in two years, had your abdomen sliced through three times to make this all possible and I sit here looking at you with far less admiration than you deserve. I’m supposed to love you and appreciate you, but through a month of pumping and leaking and bleeding and squeezing into my ‘fat clothes’, I’m struggling.

But amongst all of this, I reflect on what you’ve done and I really do think you’re amazing. You can do anything. You are powerful. You are strong. I do love you, just not right now, not like this.

I’m working on it.

xx

Candice

A little glimpse into our family of 3,5

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We haven’t had much time as a family of 3 and with Baby B arriving in just a few short weeks, we wanted to capture some of these fleeting moments before they’re gone. We decided to do a relaxed shoot at home and Luca stole the show, as expected. I still think of our toddler as a baby and now we have another smaller baby on the way – life is about to get a little bit more hectic!

Here are some of my favourite images from our recent shoot with Hannah Mentz at 35 weeks pregnant.

Looking out for yourself after having a baby – postpartum tips

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I find that a lot of discussions and focus for pregnancy is around preparing for birth. Women put so much effort into preparing for birth (which is largely out of our control at the end of the day) and not nearly as much effort into preparing for what happens after birth (which is much more in our control)! I’m talking about looking after MOM here. We get so caught up in looking after the needs of the baby that the mom, who’s done all the grunt work and has undergone an incredible body and emotional change, gets left out of the picture.

Here are my tips for looking after yourself postpartum, because it is actually SO important. (I ran the topic past anyone who cared to contribute on my Instagram stories and most of what I have here is backed up by other moms who’ve been through the postnatal period, so it’s legit, guys!)

If you’re looked after and feeling good, you can look after your family better.

  • In the weeks before birth, start stocking up on healthy freezer meals. If anyone asks “Let me know if there is anything I can do for you”, say “Thanks so much, a meal for our freezer would be amazing if you’re keen on that”. Cook an extra batch of whatever you’re making every now and then and chuck it in the freezer. Freeze leftover soups, muffins, whatever. When the baby arrives and you’re too exhausted to make food, you’ve got what you need right there. You can also consider meal delivery services or meal packs to make dinners a lot easier to deal with.

  • “Sleep when the baby sleeps”. Although this is true, are you also going to clean when the baby cleans, shower when the baby showers, or cook when the baby cooks??? Beef up on your domestic help if you have it and call on family and friends to help out from time to time, like ask if a friend can pick up some laundry to have done at the laundromat rather than you trying to find time to do a load of washing, hang it, fold it, have it ironed etc. Time is precious here and when you have an opportunity to sleep you want to be able to do so without worrying about everything else that’s being neglected.

  • Look after your belly. After everything that it’s been through, it’s probably looking very different to what you remember! Don’t stress about this now, the swelling will go down, the fluid retention will subside and once you’re back up and running again it will change again for the better.
    • Look into investing in a belly binder or belly wrap. It provides lower back and abdominal support in those early days and helps to compress and support recovering muscles post-birth, while shrinking the uterus back to its original size. It also helps to slim down the belly a lot quicker. I’ll be using the Upspring Baby Shrinkx Belly Postpartum Belly Wrap this time around (available from Breastpumps and Beyond)
    • Now is also a good time to use skincare products that are designed to treat stretch marks, skin tone and cellulite as it will help immensely with recovery. If you’re looking for natural/vegan products, I recently tried out Natralogic which is natural, cruelty-free, toxin-free and gentle on your pregnant and postpartum skin.

  • Have your essential toiletries fully stocked: Haemorrhoid cream (just get some, guys, you won’t be sorry if you find yourself in a situation that you desperately need it and can’t get out of the house), nipple pads, nipple cream, maxi pads (loads of these), constipation remedies (that first poo after what feels like 100 years after birth I’m sure is worse than actual labour)

  • Have comfortable post-birth underwear ready. With everything still a little tender for a while, you don’t want anything digging into you. There are a few good finds in this department:
    • Feeding camis: These are cami tops with inner support and drop-down straps that I basically lived in for a long time after birth. You can buy them online from one of my favourite local maternity/nursing clothing brands: Cherry Melon. You might as well stock up on nursing clothing here as well at this point!
    • Underwear: Comfortable nursing bras are really important (have a look at Mama Noo for some really pretty options, also available online). For panties, some moms have said that they are quite happy with the mesh panties while in hospital, but on leaving, they would love to have “real” ones. Mama Noo has recently introduced a post-birth brief as an alternative to those oh-so-unflattering mesh hospital panties – they’re washable or disposable and affordable enough for you to not mind throwing spoiled ones away and popping on a new pair – definitely worth considering!

  • Hydrate. Be prepared to be very thirsty while breastfeeding. Have a big bottle of water on hand and also look into something like “Jungle Juice” that’s said to help milk supply but is also a really nice break from so much plain water.

  • Extra PJ’s for night sweats. Why did nobody warned me about post-birth night sweats? Well, here’s your warning (you’re welcome). The extra fluid you’ve been carrying around while pregnant, is all going to come out after birth and very often in night sweats. This means that you’ll need extra PJ’s to change into when you wake up drenched in sweat.

  • C-section wound care: Women tend to be very scared of c-section recovery, but I honestly don’t remember it being that bad. Pay attention to your doctor’s instructions about wound care and follow them to a T. You’ll likely be taped up straight from surgery and can leave this on for a while while the cut starts to heal (it’s waterproof and meant to be kept on for a long period of time). Once the cut has closed, you’ll probably also have been given some micropore tape to aid in post-surgical scar formation. A fantastic option here as well, which I’m definitely going to try out this time around (this ain’t my first uterus slice by along shot), is a “C-panty”. This is a panty designed for c-section recovery, providing compression (to reduce swelling) and has a silicone panel in the scar area which also aids with scarring. (I’ll be using the Upspring Baby C-panty, available from Breastpumps and Beyond)

  • Don’t stress about exercise or your postpartum body. Argh, we are all under so much pressure to “get our bodies back” soon after birth. For some people it happens naturally, for others it is a struggle. This is not a struggle you need to worry about right now. You literally have the rest of your life to put things back into some sort of shape, if you choose to. My biokenticist does, however, suggest that you at least get going on those kegel exercises as soon as you feel ready and get checked out for diastasis recti before starting any exercise again. But listen to your body – everyone heals differently.

  • Baby blues and postnatal depression. With all the hormonal (and life) changes you go through after birth, it’s totally normal to feel a bit down for a week or two. If this persists or start later on, however, then this may be a sign that you should check for postnatal depression and make a quick visit to your doctor to suss it out.

Good luck to all the moms-to-be! You’re about to embark on an incredible journey. Look after yourself too while you’re on it 🙂

*Disclosure: Products sponsored for this post are Upspring Baby Shrinkx Belly Postpartum Belly Wrap, Upspring Baby C-panty and Mama Noo Post-birth brief 

Floatation Therapy!

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The husband surprised me with some time out at a spa, to help relieve some of the pregnancy aches, pains and lack of sleep of late (1 billion husband points to him on this one!). One of the treatments was floatation therapy, which I thought was going to be a bit strange but was actually so incredibly relieving on my aching muscles!

So what is it, exactly?

It’s basically a warm pool, heated to body temperature, in a dark room lit in candlelight style and highly salted with Epsom salts to allow for floatation. I went to Life Day Spa for my treatment where it’s a pool in a private room and not a tank, some places have special tanks for this.

(If you’ve ever been in the Dead Sea – I have, it was so weird – then it’s the same weightless floating you’ll experience there, but in a relaxed treatment setting and not surrounded by a million tourists doing the same.)

What does it do for your body?

“Floatation Therapy allows you to escape the added weight of pregnancy by floating in a weightless environment, thus taking the strain off the body and spine. It promotes excellent sleep, a lovely sense of well being, and can help with all the aches and pains normally associated with pregnancy.”

The weightlessness really did took all of the pressure off my spine (such a relief), the quiet was very welcome and the Epsom salts soaked into my sore muscles.

The verdict?

I was sceptical, but it was wonderful for my pregnant body 🤗

I’d highly recommend this treatment for sore, pregnant (or not) bodies.

What you put on your pregnant body is just as important as what you put in it…

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So we all know the importance of eating healthy foods during pregnancy, staying away from refined sugars, alcohol, caffeine and foods that are dangerous for pregnancy, but have you thought about what’s going into your body through your skin?

It’s probably best to think about it a little bit, do a little bit of research and then stop because what you’ll find in your everyday skincare products is quite frightening. Given that our skin is our biggest organ, it absorbs a large amount of chemicals and toxins through our skincare products.

Look, this post is not meant to frighten you, but rather to make you aware of this, especially during pregnancy when you’re trying so hard to keep your body in the best possible condition to grow your very own little human. If you want the low-down on why you should be using natural skincare products, have a look at this post by Natralogic, which goes into detail on it all.

In the meantime, I’ve been trying out some of the Natralogic natural maternity skincare products and am really loving them. I wish that I’d found out about them earlier in my pregnancy. They are 100% natural, vegan and safety approved for use during pregnancy. I’m currently using the exfoliating creme (gentle enough to use every day), the tummy creme and my personal favourite is the toning massage oil that focuses on problem cellulite areas (all of these are actually available together as a starter pack which works out cheaper than buying them all separately!). I haven’t had a chance to try the nipple creme, but it’s waiting for me for when Baby 2 arrives soon… These products smell and feel amazing and I am honestly loving them, especially knowing that I’m not putting any nasties into my baby-growing body at the same time.

Because what you put ON your pregnant body is just as important as you what you put IN.

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“They didn’t have such clever baby things in my day”

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Guys, I’m on baby number 2 in 2 years (still brewing) and I found myself saying this recently when I was sent some very clever baby products from Tommee Tippee. Which is ridiculous. The clever things were there, but I just didn’t know about them. Tommee Tippee has been around for 50 years, they know their stuff and continue to develop baby products that make people say “they didn’t have such clever baby things in my day”.

This blog post is dedicated to bringing some of these clever things to your attention, so that you don’t miss out like I did the first time around 🙂 Having a new baby is difficult enough and there are amazing products out there that are designed to make it easier.

The GroEgg2 and GroEgg Shell

This is super helpful, especially now that winter has hit us in full force! It’s a colour-changing nursery thermometer that also acts as a nightlight. You can see at a glance if the room is too warm or too cold and what the exact temperature is. The GroEgg Shells are really cute animal shells for the GroEggs that transforms them into sweet little glowing animals.

The GroLight

This one is an energy efficient LED night light that can be used as a main light or night light. It screws into a lamp or ceiling light fitting (be sure to check your current fitting to make sure that it matches and can hold a wide bulb). We need to find the right light fitting before we can test this one out, but it will be great for the new baby’s slowly-coming-along nursery.

The GroFriend

I’m particularly excited about this one! The GroFriend is a cuddly, fluffy sleep aid that plays soothing sounds and white noise to help your baby sleep. Any mom will tell you that this kind of sleep aid for newborns (and beyond) is so useful and worth getting. The GroFriends take a step further with their “Cry Sensor” which activates when the baby stirs in an attempt to soothe the baby back to sleep! Genius.

The Gro Anywhere Blind

These are portable blackout blinds that suctions directly onto glass with suction cups. This is great for travelling with babies when you don’t know how dark the rooms will be and also for at home if your current curtains aren’t dark enough.

The GroSnug

One of the things that terrified me when having a newborn was the fear of blankets coming loose and suffocating the baby. Even when I had a decent stretch of sleep I found myself waking up all the time to check that everything is still in tact in the cot. The GroSnug sorts this out as it’s a sleeping bag and swaddle that allows you to easily swaddle your baby without fear of loose blankets.

The GroBag

The GroBag is a baby sleeping bag that keeps your baby warm and safe, without needing extra blankets that could come loose during the night.

The GroSwaddleDry

The material used for this one is designed for quick-drying while still being super soft for newborn skin. Since being through the baby battles with Luca, I now know how important the bath and bedtime routine is to prepare your baby for the wind-down to sleep and I can’t wait to try this out – the shape is made to recreate the calming and sooting effects of swaddling.

Now don’t say I don’t tell you anything useful, okay?

*All product images from Tommee Tippee

*Products featured in this post are generally available from Takealot, Baby City, Loot and Charley’s Boxes

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